A blogging rite of passage?

I’m often inspired by other bloggers. Just take a look back, and you’ll see many a post that point to other bloggers that inspire me.  I also often give shout-outs to fellow bloggers and have even featured new blogs that I have started following.  So it pains me to be accused of not giving credit where credit is due, and for being a dishonest blogger. This is the first time it’s happened to me, and I have to admit it hurts. I wanted to take the high road and  not mention it but one of the reasons why I blog is to express my opinion, and I can’t leave this one alone.

Of the hundreds of posts I’ve written, it seems my random post about the contents of my purse has ruffled feathers. It was pointed out to me that another blogger posted a similar post earlier in the week, and apparently I should have given this blogger credit in my post. (And for the record, it wasn’t the blogger who was accusing me.)

I am all about giving credit where credit is due, and would have given her credit 100%. The fact remains I never read her post. Yes, it was a coincidence that we posted the same week or similar timelines. I can’t prove it. But really do I have to?

I admitted in the first paragraph of my post that the idea wasn’t original. I have seen ‘What’s in my Bag’ posts  on countless blogs and in YouTube videos. I Googled it again and came up with pages of search results.  I could even list the blogs that I follow that have done this type of post but I won’t.

LipstickRules is a passion for me.I have built it from the ground up over the last two years, and continue to put a lot of time and effort into everything related to the blog. I do it because I enjoy writing, I enjoy beauty, and I enjoy the connections I’ve made with so many people. I strive to remain true to my values and provide readers with my honest views.  What kind of role model would I be for my children if I didn’t stick to this? I know it’s easy to spot dishonesty or  people who aren’t in this for the right reasons. I like to think that I’ve proven in the last two and half years that I’m in it for the right reasons. What you see here is what you get in real life.

Is this a rite of passage for blogging? If so, I hope it passes soon because it’s hurtful.

Comments

  1. says

    Well that’s just plain stupidity that somebody did that to you! What’s in my purse posts are NOT original (no offence!) but ENJOYABLE because you get to see a glimpse into the person’s life. Like wow get a grip whoever you are!

  2. says

    I think it is, in fact, a very stinky rite of passage to be accused of “stealing.” Let’s face it…you carry a purse and are entitled to share or withhold the contents of it. You pointing out that you’ve seen it before on blogs and youtube is going above and beyond. When there’s something as common as “what’s in my purse” for a topic, you can’t be expected to credit every previous post. So boo to the person that is being ridiculous and hooray for you taking the high road by not putting up a nasty name-calling finger-pointing post. I love your posts, keep at it and don’t let them get you down!

  3. says

    I’m sorry I hardly ever comment anymore, but I do still read your posts. I’ve seen a lot more of this recently. I’m not sure if people just don’t have anything better to do with their time, or what, but people seem to think they can say just anything to someone else online. You openly acknowledged that others had done the purse thing before you, so I really don’t see why someone would need to make an issue of it. I’ve considered returning to beauty blogging, but seeing a lot of this kind of thing lately makes me shy away from it. I think you’re one of the good beauty bloggers, and I think you’ve always come across as genuine. *hugs*

    • Michelle says

      Thank you Laura. I didn’t want to get into the drama – it’s not what I’m into really. It was just shocking to me today though. Came out of the blue. Thank you again for your kind words. Appreciate the hugs!

  4. says

    Oh Michelle, how could you steal someone else’s idea?? 🙂 This just puts questions in my head. How are you supposed to know what each and every beauty blogger in the world blogs about every day? Why are you supposed to give the other blogger credit when she wasn’t the one who originally came up with the “what’s in my bag” post? Do we even know who was the first person to do it? Also since it was pointed out to you by a reader, you obviously didn’t even know the other post existed. Why do you have to credit something you didn’t even know existed? I think it’s ridiculous. We’ve known you and your blog for a couple of years now. If you were in this to ‘steal’ others’ ideas and portray them as they are your own, you would have shown your true colors a long time ago and wouldn’t even have all of us interested in what you have to say. Apparently the commenter is new to your blog and just doesn’t know you.

    • Michelle says

      Thanks Ebru! I follow hundreds, and I mean hundreds of blogs. I don’t read them all every day — how could I? I really appreciate your ongoing support!

  5. says

    Ahhh a similar thing happened to me quite some months back now on a nail art post I did… which was leopard print and of course had been done before many a time, much like a what in my purse/bag post! It was all very silly but it did hurt and was very frustrating and petty at the time. So I definitely know how you are feeling and it isn’t nice.

    You just need to remind yourself how silly it is for people to suggest you copied someone else. You clearly have a great blog and give a lot of time to it. So make sure to keep calm and carry on blogging 🙂

    Fee x

  6. says

    Credit for a “what’s in my bag” post is just silly, and being accused of stealing the idea is laughable. We all do the bag think and monthly favorites posts, and I can’t think of many that link back to someone else. I do not understand what honesty has to do with neglecting to mention someone, and I am really sorry you got a nasty comment.

    I think getting negative comments is an unfortunate rite of passage, and it does hurt–especially when we’re just trying to do some good. But just like in the 3D world, there are quite a few miserable people out there who have to put others down to prop themselves up. So, in my opinion, nasty comments say far more about them than about their target blogger.

    As for stealing, I like to think about it as benefiting from someone who has gone before me. 😉 I mean, all it takes is for a popular collection to come out, and suddenly the blogosphere is inundated with everyone posting about Armani Eyes to Kill eyeshadow. Does that mean we are stealing if, heaven forbid, we bought the same color as Suzie and Sally and Sam?

    Bah. Blog haters can bite me.

    • Michelle says

      So…I do have a post coming out about Armani Eyes to Kill…eeek! will that cause trouble????

      In all seriousness though, thank you for your comment. I like how you put it into perspective. Makes it easier for me to digest. I think I’m calming down finally. I need to after all. My boy is turning five tomorrow!

  7. says

    oh what a load of utter rubbish, stealing posts…. i’m pretty sure that the previous poster of ‘whats in my purse’ wasn’t the ORIGINAL poster, so why does it matter? So that must mean that whenever anyone reviews a new product they must credit if they’ve read it elsewhere… what rubbish. Keep calm and carry on Blogging!

  8. says

    the fact of the matter is, nothing ANYBODY ever does is 100% original. every idea has been recycled somehow, some way; consciously or subconsciously.

    the “what’s in my purse tag” has been done by SO many people! it’s free property! it’s not like you copied a look someone else created and claimed it as your own. people these days are just so quick to point fingers and make accusations because they want to stir up drama.

    as for a blogger’s rite of passage, i actually agree. unfortunately, it’s something everyone has to deal with in their life and the more successful you are, the more haters you have. keep your chin up and keep doing what you’re doing, girl. it looks like you’ve got lots of people who are willing to stick up for you, take some comfort in that :).

    • Michelle says

      Thank you Dani – I appreciate the support. You guys are the best! I have to remember THIS is why I blog. It’s readers like you all that have commented here that motivate me. Thank you.

  9. says

    Please don’t let it upset you! It’s funny that someone would be upset about that. When new MAC/NARS products come out, isn’t it common (and acceptable) for bloggers to post about the exact same thing? I’m all for originality, but that’s taking it a bit too far.

    For the record, I loved that post!
    ♥ Jessica

    • Michelle says

      Thanks Jessica! It’s ironic — I haven’t done ‘tag’ posts in over a year and the one I choose to do, I get in trouble for. You can’t win all the time I guess. I’m glad you liked my post. I actually liked it too, especially seeing the raisins!

  10. says

    i am cracking up….was that person SERIOUS??? that’s like saying that you should give credit to someone for doing a face of the day, beauty product review, or nail look. that is something done on SOOOO many blogs, no way should that be credited. it’s not in any way original

    i give credit if a specific LOOK inspires me that a blogger did, but really, a TYPE of post? no way, we all do the same type of posts for the most part.

    • Michelle says

      Thanks Vonnie. You hit on some good points. It’s true – much as we try to create original content, there are times the types of posts are similar. That’s why we’re a community – we are into similar things/interests. Isn’t that what attracted us to each other? So much to think about.

  11. says

    You’re kidding right? Was that person really serious? I think the entire blogiverse has done the ‘what’s in my purse’ post. I know I did it over a year ago! Lol. Quit stealing my ideas Michelle.
    To whomever accused Michelle of stealing ideas, you’ve clearly not been reading blogs for very long or you would have seen this post done at least thirty times before. L.O.L
    I am legit cracking up over this. I hope you are too.
    xo

  12. says

    BAH! What’s this sillyness?! “What’s in my bag” is as old as Santa Claus! What the eff?

    This is ridiculous – your blog is witty, original, smart, efficient, concise but informative and shows a mixture of collection products and permanent products. Flat out – I LOVE IT. Don’t let silly jealous people get to you. You’re a GREAT blogger and many look up to you.

  13. says

    Please don’t this bother you!! Expecting to be credited for the idea of a “What’s in my Bag” post is asinine! They are done ALL THE TIME by a lot of bloggers. It is the kind of fun post we all enjoy regardless of how unoriginal it is. I can’t even fathom someone attacking you over such nonsense. They are obviously VERY naive. Keep up the great work!

    • Michelle says

      Thank you! It was shocking when it happened. I can understand if it was a different type of post but this one? I couldn’t believe it!

  14. Jan says

    Oh how ridiculous – it is 3.30am in the morning in the UK – I can’t sleep and maybe cannot be held responsible for what I am typing at this ungodly hour but really WTF?? But what I do want to say is good on you for bringing it up, and tackling it head on. Sometimes it is easy to ignore these sorts of things and push them under the carpet and carry on, anything for a quiet life, don’t rock the boat. By the way I love your new blog layout – or maybe it isn’t that old and I have been under a rock for the past 6months 😉 As Fee says keep calm and carry on blogging. And now bed for me xx Jan

    • Michelle says

      Hi Jan! I saw this when you posted but didn’t get a chance to respond till now. Thank you so much for your kind words — hope you got a good night’s sleep. 🙂

  15. says

    Accusing someone of stealing ideas is not a rite of passage. It is plain stupidity.
    Also, I would remind that person that there aren’t many “original” posts on beauty blogs. Rather, similar ideas that are explained and expressed in personal ways. That is what makes a blog original…we all do reviews, we all do fotd’s…what changes is just our personal touch or view on them. But the idea remains the same!

    You’ve always done a good job, I wouldn’t pay attention to that comment!

    • Michelle says

      Thank you Lydia! I totally agree — it really is our personal take on everything that makes each of our blogs unique!

  16. says

    I was really interested to see that Fee commented above as I immediately thought of her incident when I read this. Posts like what’s in my purse are everywhere. It seems preposterous to suggest that you should have credited someone for inspiration. It’s just a coincidence and it’s not an original idea. It is however fascinating for readers which is why so many people do similar posts.

    You have always been so very fair and I can understand why this has hurt you. You are such an honest person. I hope you can put the accusation behind you, these are the less fun aspects of blogging that are so often hidden.
    Jane xx

    • Michelle says

      Thanks for your ongoing support Jane! The ‘beef’ this person had with me was that my post appeared in the same Google timeline as the other blogger who posted something similar. I think she assumes we follow the same blogs and see the same timeline. And again, fact of the matter is, I never saw the post. Even if I did, I wouldn’t have thought anything of it since like I said, and like what everyone here has said, these ‘what’s in my purse’ posts are everywhere!

  17. Marianthi says

    When I started to write this comment I thought I would say something about “unfair accusations” etc, but really, the more I think of this incident the more I laugh!
    I cannot give “substance” to this by trying to deny it, say how well we know you through your blog and how unlikely it is that you would do such a thing. I just laugh at the person who said it, and hope that he/she continues following blogs and see the error of his/her thoughts.
    As for you, Michelle, we know and love you for your refreshing, honest posts. Keep up the good work!

  18. says

    what the? i guess i should give credit to the other 1,000 beauty bloggers who recently published a ‘what’s in my bag’ post … or better yet, give credit to the other 10,000 beauty bloggers who created a blog before me!
    i really enjoy your blog not only for the general reviews but for the true ‘professionalism’ that comes through, giving credit where credit is due, and it saddens me to think that some one has targeted you for something almost every beauty/makeup blogger has done. keep smiling michelle x

  19. says

    a lot of people have shared their piece about this issue and i agree with all of the other girls’opinion.so I’m going to keep this one short Michelle- Don’t mind the haters, keep doing what you’re doing because you’re brilliant at it. You are a beautiful beauty blogger who I love because not only do we share a love for beauty but you’re asian like me.=D YAY!.I enjoy reading all your posts because I can see all your hard work and effort in each and every post.You always leave me wanting more.Eagerly anticipating your next post,wondering what’s around the corner.Trust me you’re that good of a blogger and if it happens that your post wasn’t original who cares? It’s still original for me because although there are literally i don’t know thousands of what’s in my bag post the contents inside are varied.Girls still have to make it their own, to put their own stamp to it.Some girls have a long post explaining each and every item while some are kept short like yours was.You can still tell the blogger is being themselves by how they expressed themselves in their posts.How they write the what’s in my bag post will be different from 1 blogger to the next that’s why I enjoy reading them because like what you have said before you get a glimpse of the life of the blogger.The end.

    i know i said i was going to keep it short but i got carried away.Michelle I hope by now you feel less hurt.I would totally comfort you face to face if I could but I can’t so I’ll comfort you instead using my words that I always end my posts with STAY HAPPY so you’ll STAY BEAUTIFUL. much love from me to you and remember while you can’t please everyone you have definitely had pleased me.Thanks for sharing your beauty experience with us and I can’t wait for many more years of you beauty blogging.

  20. Nina says

    I just want to add my voice to all of your lovely supporters out there! Really, who owns the trademark/patent on “What’s in My Purse?” – that’s just ridiculous! Do not waste on more minute thinking about this !

  21. says

    OMG seriously???? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve heard. That’s like saying everytime I do a FOTD post I need to reference every other blogger who has done one this week. People have way to much time on their hands and way too many insecurities. I know it’s hard, but try not to let this get to you. You’ve inspired me to do a “What’s in my purse” post and I will do it soon 🙂 And I may, or may not credit you. Actually I will, but still. So silly.

  22. says

    You hang in there! I’ve not only had my pictures and content stolen, I’ve had MY IDENTITY STOLEN! Remember – I had to contact the site owner’s legal department!

    Keep blogging for yourself and for those of us who love and admire you!!

  23. says

    I had the same thing happen to me a couple months back. I was helping my friend plan her wedding so decided to do a ‘makeup tips for brides’ post. Somebody then accused me of copying the content of another beauty blogger who did a makeup tips for brides post. It was just so ridiculous because I had never even seen the post from the other blogger and I’m sure the topic on makeup for brides is not something unique/original! My first reaction was to get mad, but then I realized, that’s exactly the response that they are trying to elicit. Put it this way, there will always be haters… and the bigger your blog grows, the more haters you will get. Keep doing what you’re doing because you have a lot of supportive fellow bloggers to counteract that!! xx

  24. says

    Obviously the person that commented doesn’t realize that we plan these posts out weeks in advance and that there’s no way we can know what someone else is going to do. Do NOT take this seriously, it’s absolutely ridiculous.
    No one steals ideas or content and remains a legitimate blogger, especially not someone like you with such an amazing blog.
    I enjoyed your purse post and that’s what counts!

  25. says

    Hi there,
    I’m sorry that someone tried to out you on a subject that is hardly original. But what is really original? I haven’t been called out yet, knock on wood, but I can see how that sucks. I’m sorry someone was a Debbie Downer to you.

  26. Jann says

    I’m a lurker for a few months and I had to come out and tell you that this other person accusing you of not crediting other bloggers for this type of post is ridiculous. I’ve seen hundreds of similiar posts and I really like finding out what others have in their purse since I can then add to mine. 🙂 Keep up the fabulous content and don’t mind what others think. The most important thing is that you’re true to yourself and you’re honest about it. You love this blog and us readers love it too!

  27. Cher L. says

    Keep your head up Michelle! This is so incredibly silly.
    I see people launching similar accusations at people who “stole their Facebook status quote” or “copied a tweet”.
    Seriously, the online world and social networking has created such a large and impossible to track medium that one can hardly claim ownership over a theme so widely used before. We could probably find someone else that blogged about it just before the blogger you “copied”!
    Your blog is such a breath of fresh air- please don’t let this get you down, your honest opinions and sparkling take on all things is what keeps me reading! xo

  28. says

    I think some people just comment to create a ruckus and get a reaction, all your followers know you are honest and that this notion of stealing an idea is ridiculous x

  29. says

    Everyone’s said it already but I just have to add to the conversation that there are actually COMMUNITIES called “What’s in my bag”….as in, many people posting what they have in their bag in Flickr, Livejournal, etc. The idea is not original and it’s quite laughable that someone would accuse you of stealing the idea. I would laugh it off because the comment is just so unfounded!

  30. says

    This is so silly…I mean, this is playground stuff!Loads of bloggers and YT peeps have done that type of posts before and god knows, you’re entitled to post whatever you want on your blog. Don;t listen to these childish taunts because everyone who reads your blog regularly knows you have integrity and enough imagination of your own to write interesting posts. Don’t let it bother you 🙂 xx

  31. says

    Awww, I’m sorry that you had to go through that!! I absolutely LOVE your blog posts and I would just stick with what you are doing, because it’s your blog… and you should be able to write about whatever you want, when you want 🙂 Lots of love and big hugs… xoxo

  32. says

    Unfortunately, there are people who will hurt you – intentional or not – as a blogger (I’m trying to keep that in mind as I start mine). Concentrate on the positive comments and people. I, for one, enjoy your blog and your personality.

  33. says

    i also want to do a post about “whats in my bag”…will it also mean im copying you or any other blogger..how do we find out who did it first,only she deserve the credit…not everyone out there….and whats in my bag is actually for our regular readers..who are regular to our blog and who would love to find out whats in your bag and closet.the person who accused you is just silly..and her accusation makes no sense.

  34. Meeka says

    So… that post you did recently about poor service? I saw about 3 others within a few days (what does that say about the service lately?). I don’t know if you even follow those blogs but obviously you should have credited them for giving you a topic idea.
    Seriously though, that is a ridiculous accusation to make in the first place. Especially to a blogger like you who anyone can tell, if they’ve read your blog at all, is an honest and upstanding writer and person. That should definitely be one of those comments you forget about. The rest of us love your blog or we wouldn’t be here right? 🙂

  35. Rebecca says

    I just want to add my two cents and basically say what everyone else has said: how ridiculous! What are you supposed to do? Credit someone if you do a “haul” post or a “here are my lipsticks” post? I love the internet, but too many people think it is a medium where it is ok to be rude and hurtful and not have any repercussions for it. Just ignore it, keep moving on and keep up the awesome work! We love you!

  36. says

    obviously, you can see from all your other lovely followers (miss panties in a wad not included) that this is ridiculous that you even had to deal with a hater. i did a “what’s in my diaper bag” post over 6 months ago, and happily admit, i got that idea from someone else. take into consideration how many burger joints there are in business out there (wendys, mcdonalds, jackinthebox, etc)- they all have the same concept, but have a different spin on their burgers which is perfectly acceptable in a capitalist society. we as bloggers don’t have to reinvent the wheel every time, we just put a different and personal spin on that wheel;-) keep up the great work michelle!

  37. Michelle says

    I’m so overwhelmed by everyone’s response. Thank you ALL for the support and understanding. You’ve helped me tremendously and I can now put this thing behind me!

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